Thursday, September 27, 2012

Your life is your own. Rise up and live it.

If you don't recognize it, the title comes from my favorite book series, The Sword of Truth by Terry Goodkind. It states that basic fundamental principle that we all, to some extent, believe in. It is your life, it's yours to live it as you see fit. There are decisions and opportunities just waiting for you to find them. Get off your lazy butt and go get them.

You have no right to complain if you wallow in complacency and no reason to whine because someone else got what you were unwilling to work for. If you want it, work for it. Most things in life aren't one of a kind and you can have what you want if you're willing to put in the time and effort it takes to obtain it. Neil Armstrong didn't just wake up one day and become an astronaut, he set a goal to become an aerospace engineer and design new aircraft. Then he became a naval aviator flying planes for the navy. He enjoyed that so much that he then became a test pilot for new aircraft. When he had worked and sacrificed to get that, he didn't stop, he set another goal and became more and eventually worked as an astronaut in the Gemini and Apollo programs at NASA. Even then, he didn't stop. He even became a professor at a university and passed on his knowledge to a new generation.

Our history is riddled with stories and events where other people made a simple decision that ultimately changed not only their lives but the lives of many others. You have an influence over others whether or not you realize it. People look at you for an example, good or bad. Yes, some of us will be denied certain opportunities due to physical or mental capabilities but there are so many other avenues that we can travel that we don't have to be disheartened by a few unfulfilled dreams. We can make new dreams, we can set new goals.

In Terry Goodkind's book, Faith of the Fallen, the main character, Richard, is captured and taken to the land of his enemy in the hope that in seeing their "enlightened" way of life he will renounce his preposterous ideals of freedom and individual worth. He is forced to live in squalor and most of what he earns doing physical labor is taken from him and given to others who cheat the system and claim to be unable to work for themselves. The Imperial Order, the antagonistic government, has complete control. If they don't think you need it, you don't get it. You are only allotted what they think you need to survive. In fact, a healthy person that is able to work is expected to work harder and longer to provide for those who can't but you can't do someone else's job when it needs to be done because then you're taking away from them their right to earn a living. This is best exemplified in the story by a cart driver who can't help load or unload his cart because that's not what his job is. If the person that has been hired to unload the cart is sick, the cart sits there till he gets back. They had to go to meetings where people would stand and explain why they couldn't work and needed help and everyone else was expected to give them something out of the little that they already had. Those who didn't were reported as insurrectionists and accused of some trumped up charge and held until they could either pay a fine or they 'confessed' to a more serious crime and were executed.

I doubt Richard would have balked at doing the sick persons job then making sure they were able to return to work or had the medicine they needed to get better but the Imperial Order took what he had rightfully earned and gave it to someone else completely unrelated to the line of work he was forced to do. Richard recognizes the demoralizing effect that this way of life has on the citizens of that nation. It wasn't life, it was slavery but they had lived with it so long that they didn't recognize that they were slaves working for the benefit of those who were in charge. The leaders and supervisors all had the nicest homes and the best food because they were the servants of the people and they needed the best in order to serve, while the population that actually did the work had to stand in lines to get their food and weren't even guaranteed to get any. Bakers could only bake so much bread so that they didn't take work away from other bakers. The best bread went to the government while the general population either had to deal with maggoty bread or none at all. Watery soup with cabbage as the main ingredient was the main diet.

How much work a man could do wasn't based on his personal ability, it was based on the needs of his neighbors. and when he is pressed into carving a statue for the temple that is to depict the suffering of man that is their lot in life, he rebels and instead carves a poignant and stunning example of the majesty of man. Carved along the base is the phrase I used for the title of this post, "Your life is your own, rise up and live it."

Your actions, or lack thereof, will be the legacy that you pass on to future generations. Will you be remembered as someone who had a zest for life and was always looking for the next opportunity and challenge? Will you be the person who people look up to and say, "I'd like to be like him/her?" Or, will you take the easy path and be remembered as someone who depended on others to provide for their every need, who was a burden to their family and friends, or only do that which is necessary for your own survival, ignoring the need for service and human companionship?

Tuesday, November 22, 2011

On the path to self discovery

All right, for the past 12 days I've been participating in the National Novel Writing Month. Apparently this is something that has been happening for several years but this is the first year that I've heard of it, let alone participated in it. One of my good friends, Josh, got me into it. The goal is to reach 50,000 words by the end of November. In 12 days, I have passed the 30,000 word mark.

This is my first serious attempt at writing a book. I have learned several things so far. First, my imagination is very narrow and I have had to expand my horizons. Talking to people is an excellent way to do that.

Second, I would have never thought that I had the determination to undertake a project like this. I've been able to pull myself away from my various video games and book reading activities and write. There's something very satisfying about putting my mind to forming a coherent plot and then guiding my characters to that point. I've discovered that even with fictional characters, I can't force them to reach a conclusion that I want them to reach. They have to discover it on their own and even then I am surprised in the way that they resolve a situation.

I'm extremely grateful for the support that Dana and the kids have given me throughout this process. I'm home but not mentally present. I can always count on them to provide a pleasant distraction when I am having problems figuring out what is supposed to happen next. They inspire me. When I have problems figuring out how the protagonist, a protector, would handle a situation, I can always imagine how I would feel and react if my family were threatened in a similar fashion.

Will I make it to 50,000 words before the end of the month? Only time will tell but I only have 8 days to do complete it. Even if I don't meet the goal by the appointed time, I am going to try to finish it just to say that I have written a book. It may never see a printer and become a hard copy that someone can hold and read but at least I will have completed the task.

Monday, May 9, 2011

Complacency

It seems that no matter how much I say that I am going to post blogs on here, it just never happens. Not that anything I say is very interesting anyway the only follower I have is my wife and she already know most if not all that I put here.

Sunday, December 28, 2008

Counting many Blessings

This time of year has always been a time to reflect on the many blessings that we have had throughout the year. This is especially true for me. On the 26th of December, my family had come to pick me up from work as my truck was in the shop. We were travelling home and lost control of the vehicle on some ice. We slid into oncoming traffic and were broadsided by a SUV travelling the opposite direction. All of us were taken to the hospital where it was discovered that Tara had some bruising and slight bleeding in the brain and a cut on her right eyelid. She was flown to Primary Children's Hospital in Salt Lake City as a precautionary step as they have a pediatric neurosurgon there. The cut on her eyelid took 50 stiches. Jordan suffered several cuts and bruises to his face, the worst of which required 30 stiches to close. Paige and I just have some bruising and are sore which is something that we can live with. Dana sustained 5 broken ribs, a lacerated spleen, a lacerated liver, an injury to her digestive tract, and some minor cracks to the vertabrae in her lower back. She is still in the hospital where they are monitoring her condition.

As of 5pm today, the 28th, Tara is home with my in-laws having no other problems arise and all the bleeding in her brain has cleared up. Jordan and Paige are home with me and are recovering. Dana has been moved from the ICU and is scheduled to start physical therapy and can come home as soon as she can get up, move around, and go to the bathroom on her own.

We were all very lucky and there were definately angels watching over us. Thank you for all of your support as we go through this difficult time.

Wednesday, November 5, 2008

Old Fogey

So, since my 30th birthday was this past Saturday, the 1st of November, there have been several people that seem to find it extremely funny to call me an old fogey. The ironic part is, the people that call me that are older than I am. Anyway, for those of you who haven't reached this golden age where your body decides that it wants to start doing different things than it's done in the past, like sagging in certain areas of the torso and thinking that the trees have it right in changing colors with the seasons and your body thinks that changing your hair color to gray or silver is definately keeping with the current fashion, here's a helpful tip as you get ready to turn 30. It's no different that being 20 except maybe, I repeat, maybe you're a little wiser. Let's face it, your body starts to make these changes before you're 30 and now your mind is just catching up with the signals your other departments have been sending it for the last 5 years or so. I guess the mentality of a teenager doesn't go away when you hit 20 after all.
Now that I've explained my mental and physical state, I'll move on with the much more important reason that I logged on to this blog tonight. In honor of my birthday, my beloved wife, Dana, posted 30 great reasons that she loves me. One for each year that I've been counted among the living, if only physically. So I have decided to return the favor and do the same for her. Ok, fine, I admit that she told me that it was my turn to reciprocate the favor and I would feel really guilty if I didn't since she asked me to and all. So here goes....

28 Random and interesting things about Dana:
1. She loves me for who I am and not for who she wants me to be.
2. She is the greatest mom my kids could have.
3. She puts up with me despite my many failings.
4. She likes to play WoW (World of Warcraft) with me.
5. She makes some of the cutest hair bows around.
6. She is VERY close to her family.
7. She keeps me from doing things that aren't necessary.
8. She is selfless.
9. She would do anything for those she loves.
10. She doesn't give up on things that she wants.
11. Her birthday is on Halloween but she devotes her time to the kids instead of focusing on her birthday.
12. She makes me laugh at least once a day.
13. She loves music.
14. She plays the trumpet.
15. She is the glue that keeps our family together.
16. She's obsessed with the internet, in a good way of course.
17. She's better at this blog thing than I am.
18. She LOVES the High School Musical franchise.
19. She doesn't like red meat, except for the occasional Big Mac now and then.
20. Her favorite color is purple.
21. She was born in Blackfoot and raised in the Snake River area.
22. Loves being a mom.
23. Her best birthday presents this year were Jordan losing his first tooth and Paige saying "Love you".
24. She has an older sister, Kelli, and a younger brother, Kilby. She also has an "adopted" younger sister in Kilby's wife, Katie.
25. She loves dressing Tara and Paige up and making them match.
26. All 3 kids have her wrapped around their fingers, and me wrapped around hers.
27. She gave up some friendships for me and our relationship. I'm not sure I'll ever know how much that really affected her.
28. Last, but not least, she's all mine!!!!

Love ya dearly Dana.


Bryan

Sunday, October 26, 2008

In and out of consciousness...I think..

For the record, I never said that I'd be any good at this blog thing. So for any of you who are either bored enough, desperate enough for something to do, or both, my behind is covered and it's your own fault for clicking on the link that brought you to this page.
I need to thank Dana for re-doing my page. It looks nice and she loves to do it. Me, I don't have the patience for it.
As far as family news goes, Dana has probably covered all of it and you should really go to her blog to see it. First because she coveres all of it and second, because I usually don't have any idea what's going on.
To talk about me: Work sucks as usual, we have started to distribute my resume to various places to see if there is anything better that I qualify for. So far all I've gotten is an email saying that I don't have the qualifications for the position, read OVERQUALIFIED. Oh well, I guess if I was doomed to a life at a mediocre job Chesbros is at the top of the list for preferred places to work.
I've been volunteering at the Haunted Theater being held in the Virginia Theater now and then. I love scaring people! What more can I say? The highlight of this venture has been several confessions of "You almost made me pee my pants!"
Dana seems to get sadistic pleasure out of reminding me that I turn 30 on the 1st of November. I'm not sure how I feel about turning another decade old. I've always been the type to just take things as they come. I have no plans for being 30, other than continuing on as I have been and being a survivor of life. I guess I could say that compared to most other lives, I've led a rather boring one as far as adventures like skydiving, traveling the world, etc go. But in the department of family and happiness, I am a sweepstakes winner and am rich beyond measure.

Sunday, August 3, 2008

Life is crazy

Whew! I have been so busy lately that I sometimes wonder where I find the time to breathe. I have been busy at the Virginia Theater in Shelley with our current production of Shakespeare's A Midsummer Night's Dream. Thankfully, our last performance is tomorrow night. It is a bitter sweet ending as I always enjoy performing on stage and hate for it to be over, yet I am always extremely happy to return to a somewhat normal schedule with my family.

I have also been helping a friend of mine open a restaurant in Shelley. It is right next door to the theater and it is called Lazy D's. I will be cooking there on a fairly regular basis. I never knew how much work goes into the opening, managing, and maintaining a restaurant. I've cooked in several restaurants before but haven't been involved in any of the administrative aspects of it before.

Getting a second job to be able to better provide for my family is a win-lose situation. Win because I can bring home more money and make sure that my family has what they need. Lose because I miss out on a lot of my kids life and activities. Oh to be independantly wealthy.